A Love Infusion for Parents as School Starts in the World of 2020

Hello, Fellow Humans of 2020

How many of you can relate to this?

It’s Friday night at the end of summer 2020. It is HOT. I live in Southern California. There is currently a heat wave and a huge swath of wildfires that are so strong that my lungs have been burning off and on all day even though we live hours away from the closest large fires. We have things closed up due to the smoke which makes it hotter. My thirteen year old started eighth grade online on Tuesday. My eight year old starts a version of homeschooling for third grade on Monday. I’ve never home schooled before. I’m a single mom. My kids are in the other room bickering, and I need SPACE and QUIET — both of which have been scarce for five months and counting. I find myself taking a LOT of deep breaths and listing my gratitudes subconsciously even more than usual. I have a funny habit of watching movies about the Holocaust to remind myself of what really matters and to bring myself back to how incredibly lucky and privileged I am and so many of us are. And we are.

And at the same time, I am watching many of my friends, many of my sweet, hard working, wonderful fellow parents struggling SO hard right now, especially as we all gear up to do this online schooling or homeschooling (or both!) or any other number of educational possibilities. Some of us are working full time also, some of us have partners helping, some of us don’t. Some parents are struggling with navigating co-parenting with partners or ex-partners who either do or don’t agree with our approaches to parenting or educating our children. Some parents have lost their jobs and are struggling with not knowing how they will eat. Some families have sick family members. Others are healthy, but maybe worried about vulnerable people in their families or even themselves. And the list goes on. Right?

In the middle of all of this, I am noticing a lot of parents getting stressed and worried about their ability to keep their kids on track academically this year, to be adequate substitutes for the usual in-person educators that their children have had, and so forth. And my heart hurts watching my fellow parents struggling with this.

Here is where my love and reminders come in. Most of us know all of this already, but having worked as a clinical social worker and therapist for most of my adult life, and most often with highly traumatized children and adults, I realized that maybe I could articulate these reminders in a way that might be soothing or helpful for some of you (and me!).

  1. WE ARE LIVING IN A WORLDWIDE TIME OF TRAUMA AND CRISIS. Regardless of whether you have had COVID, whether anyone you know has had it, regardless of whether you are economically affected by the quarantine, regardless of how you feel about any aspect of this time, regardless of your political views, and almost regardless of where on this planet you live, this is a time of collective trauma. We, as adults, certainly know this. And yet, we have a relatively strong ability to compartmentalize, rationalize, ground ourselves, give ourselves context and soothe and calm ourselves if and when anxieties arise regarding the epidemic and/or the economic or other affects of this time. Children are at least as sensitive, if not more so, to this collective trauma. We all know this. Our kids are sponges. I have worked with thousands of children and I have yet to meet one who I would not consider “highly sensitive” or aware of what is going on around them. In fact, the younger a child is, we know that the more “impressionable” they are by traumatic events, even if we think they are “too young to understand it.” The kids know. The kids feel it. And we know and we feel it too, even if we are focused on other things and managing to enjoy life in the meantime.

I send you, myself, our children, our planet, and our entire collective so much love and blessings in this crazy time.

Happy end of summer. Happy start of the 2020 school year.

You’re doing great.

For real.

Wishing you much safety, well being, thriving, hugs and love, inside and out, throughout this year and beyond.

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(In addition to my many years of experience in social work, as a psychotherapist, as a body worker, and as a parent, my soul calling is in connecting us with the love of the spirit world and our own souls. If this interests you, feel free to connect with me, my books, and many free videos at: www.livingtheonelight.com)




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